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Transgender Day of Remembrance

Debbie says:

Laurie and I always try to mark Transgender Day of Remembrance. As the intensifying attacks on trans people (and especially trans children) have gotten more traction in the last few years, it feels even more important to remember that real human people’s lives are on the line every day.

This year, the GLAAD website lists 33 trans people killed in the United States,  ages 19-50, from all over the country–from Albany, NY to Los Angeles, CA. Of course, that isn’t everyone, or close to everyone, even in this country, and the international numbers are higher still.

Some years, I’ve been able to find pictures, but this year only hard facts in text. So here is what GLAAD knows about the youngest and oldest victims:

Kathryne “Katie” Newhouse, an Asian-American trans woman, was killed in Georgia on March 19. She was 19 years old.

Nedra, a Black trans woman, was killed in Opa-locka, FL on May 14. She was 50 years old.

They left behind their stories, the people who loved them, the families who may have loved them or may have exiled them, and a world in which they were always in danger.

Makes me think of old Malvina Reynolds lyrics (from “I Cannot Sleep,”), transmuted slightly for this purpose. I feel confident Reynolds would approve.

If there were one, it would be cause to wonder
If there were one, it would be cause to weep.
But they are numbered in too many dozens
And for each one, I cannot sleep.

Remembering them–fighting to have this day be obsolete–that’s all we can do.


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Transgender Day of Remembrance: 2021

Debbie says:

This year’s Transgender Day of Remembrance is particularly disturbing. According to Tori Cooper at Human RIghts Campaign, this year has included the largest number of trans and gender nonconforming people’s deaths by violence since statistics were first collected in 2013. Forty-six people that we know of lost their lives so far this year, and the real number is almost certainly much higher.

An equally shocking and shameful statistic to contemplate is that more anti-trans, gender suppressive bills were passed in 2021 than in any previous year.  Those laws don’t just limit what trans and NB people can do in their day-to-day lives, they also encourage and support violence against the trans community.

The only things we can do as individuals of any gender are first, to continue to support trans and NB people at risk — who, of course, are predominantly Black, Brown, and poor; and second to fight these laws everywhere, and particularly in our own states. Laws that have been passed can be repealed. People who are vulnerable can be protected.

This year, I picked my one person off the list to call out, because I thought her name was beautiful, and I can imagine her being excited to choose it and have it represent her–Zoella (Zoey) Rose Martinez.

Zoella “Zoey” Rose Martinez

Her family says:

Zoey loved hanging out with friends and spending time with her dogs. Zoey mastered makeup that accentuated her loving and caring personality. Zoey was the caretaker of her mother after her mother survived COVID but was in recovery. Zoey loved helping out around the family farm. Zoey had a beautiful spirit, she always had a smile and had only kind words to say about others. Zoey was a born leader and her peers acknowledged her as such. Her character was that she would debate endlessly for what she thought was right. She was very witty.

So I can think of her caring for her family, holding her opinions strongly, working on the family farm. She was shot and killed in Maple Valley, Washington on August 31. Her family must be reeling from the double impact of their sick mother and their lost sister.

Some year maybe we will be able to say that the numbers have gone down … ideally to zero. Until then, we remember and mourn and organize.


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