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Transgender Day of Remembrance: 2021

Debbie says:

This year’s Transgender Day of Remembrance is particularly disturbing. According to Tori Cooper at Human RIghts Campaign, this year has included the largest number of trans and gender nonconforming people’s deaths by violence since statistics were first collected in 2013. Forty-six people that we know of lost their lives so far this year, and the real number is almost certainly much higher.

An equally shocking and shameful statistic to contemplate is that more anti-trans, gender suppressive bills were passed in 2021 than in any previous year.  Those laws don’t just limit what trans and NB people can do in their day-to-day lives, they also encourage and support violence against the trans community.

The only things we can do as individuals of any gender are first, to continue to support trans and NB people at risk — who, of course, are predominantly Black, Brown, and poor; and second to fight these laws everywhere, and particularly in our own states. Laws that have been passed can be repealed. People who are vulnerable can be protected.

This year, I picked my one person off the list to call out, because I thought her name was beautiful, and I can imagine her being excited to choose it and have it represent her–Zoella (Zoey) Rose Martinez.

Zoella “Zoey” Rose Martinez

Her family says:

Zoey loved hanging out with friends and spending time with her dogs. Zoey mastered makeup that accentuated her loving and caring personality. Zoey was the caretaker of her mother after her mother survived COVID but was in recovery. Zoey loved helping out around the family farm. Zoey had a beautiful spirit, she always had a smile and had only kind words to say about others. Zoey was a born leader and her peers acknowledged her as such. Her character was that she would debate endlessly for what she thought was right. She was very witty.

So I can think of her caring for her family, holding her opinions strongly, working on the family farm. She was shot and killed in Maple Valley, Washington on August 31. Her family must be reeling from the double impact of their sick mother and their lost sister.

Some year maybe we will be able to say that the numbers have gone down … ideally to zero. Until then, we remember and mourn and organize.


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When Nonbinary People Face the Obstacle of “Transnormativity.”

The nonbinary pride flag has yellow, white, purple, and black horizontal stripes
Nonbinary Pride Flag

Debbie says:

Andrea Becker’s article, These nonbinary patients were seeking trans health care. But in a binary system, they felt ‘invalidated.’, published at The Lily, feels all too familiar. In 1994, The New Yorker published one of the first popular articles about trans men (behind a registration wall). One thing I remember clearly from that article is a trans man righteously complaining that he couldn’t convince his (male) bottom surgery doctor that he didn’t want a large penis. The doctor’s preconceptions were stronger than the patient’s preferences.

I suspect that this is a problem trans men run into much less frequently now, because there are many trans men, and there are many fine trans care clinics. But the preconceptions and exclusions have, according to Becker, shifted to treatment of nonbinary people. Here Becker (a medical sociologist) quotes Chase Weaverling, a 35-year-old enby:

“I get back there, and it’s not a conversation at all,” they said. “The nurse is telling me what’s going to happen and how I have to do things. The assumption was, you’re here for [testosterone], therefore you’re a trans man, therefore you want maximum testosterone and effects, and that’s what we’re going to do.” …

The nurse not only assumed Weaverling was a trans man, but also bypassed all of their questions about starting slowly with a low dose of testosterone to see if they liked the changes, and instead prescribed a rigid plan that they could not customize,

The protocols are known, the assumptions are fully in place, and despite the fact that one million Americans identify as nonbinary (a number that surprised me), customization is apparently not the order of the day:

while trans men and women might want full doses of hormone replacement therapy and aspire to complete all of the available steps of transgender care, nonbinary patients might want surgery without hormones. Others, such as Weaverling, may want to experiment with microdoses of hormones for more subtle changes.

One of the problems seems to be that trans people still have to defend their own need for care:

In the current trans medical model, the onus is on patients to prove they are “transgender enough” to qualify for gender-affirming care. As proof, providers often expect descriptions of gender and bodily and social discomfort that fit the accepted diagnostic criteria. If the narrative matches these characteristics, patients are diagnosed with gender dysphoria. This psychological diagnosis then serves as a green light for subsequent trans medicine, provided the person follows the requisite steps in the correct order.

A nonbinary person, on the extra hand, might not match all (or any) of the “accepted diagnostic criteria.” Any medical model that relies on intense discomfort for a diagnosis is already setting itself up to be rigid, and to exclude even a subset of the people it’s intended for. So if we then add a different group of people in related situations that don’t fit the exclusionary framework, we are substantially increasing the percentage of people who don’t get what they need, because they don’t fit in the predesigned box.

I never expected to see or hear the word “transnormativity,” but it is apparently in common use in these circumstances. I find this intensely distressing, and not at all surprising.

Becker does provide some hope for the future:

Experts say standards of care must recognize that sex and gender are both spectrums and there is no “right way” to engage with trans medicine. As part of this, providers can move toward a patient-centered approach to gender-affirming health care.

For [Evan] Vipond, [a PhD candidate in gender, feminist and women’s studies at York University], this approach hinges on the idea that “each patient’s needs and desires in regard to transitioning are different and equally valid.”

And there’s a well-understood solution, used in many medical situations every day:

In an informed consent model, providers grant patients all of the available information regarding risks and benefits — empowering the patient to make their own decisions about a medical procedure, whether that’s hormone therapy or surgery. This takes concerns about a patient regretting a procedure out of the hands of a provider and allows patients to be an active participant in their care.

Experts agree that informed consent for trans health would help reduce the stigma attached to medical transition and trans identities and make gender-affirming care more accessible to those who need it.

Informed consent is an excellent approach. At the same time, I will never stop wishing that we could just believe people when they tell us what they need, whether it’s gender-related or not. I can imagine a world where we don’t need an “informed consent model” because as a society and culture we are committed to taking people seriously and working with each other so that everyone’s preferences are respected and we all get what we need.

Utopian? Moi?

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