Monthly Archives: September 2016

Warning: Body Shaming Can Be Hazardous to Your Freedom

[DISPLAY_ULTIMATE_SOCIAL_ICONS]

Debbie says:

In July, I wrote about former Playboy Playmate Dani Mathers, who posted an unflattering photo of an older woman changing clothes at the gym to Snapchat. She used the caption “If I can’t unsee this, then you can’t either.”

mathers

Mathers claims she just meant to send the image to a friend, not post it publicly. Somehow, that didn’t make me feel any better about her.

Although I’m far from the only body-image activist who called Mathers out, I never imagined that she might actually face any serious consequences. Jail never crossed my mind. In so many circumstances, shaming “imperfect” bodies is the socially accepted norm, not a crime or even a mis-step.

Sam Warner’s Esquire article about the photograph tells an unexpected story:

According to TMZ, the unnamed woman is in her 70s and reportedly wants to see Mathers prosecuted, and is also willing to testify.

She could be charged with Dissemination of Private Images, which carries a maximum sentence of six months. …

[Mathers] was subsequently banned from LA Fitness for life and suspended from her slot on KLOS radio, with the LA police opening an investigation.

 I didn’t know that “dissemination of private images” was a crime: I’m glad it is.I hope Dani Mathers doesn’t go to jail.  I’m too much of an activist, and have too much distrust for our penal system, to want to see almost anyone go to jail. However, the ban from the gym and the suspension of her radio program are excellent responses to her behavior. And it doesn’t bother me at all that she’s currently afraid that she might have to go to jail.

If only everyday ordinary body-shaming, the kind that doesn’t involve Playmates and national news, had real-life consequences too. Maybe someday.

3D Printers Are for Something Better than Porn

Debbie says:

france-3d-printed-clitoris-mFv

Paris-based researcher Odile Fillod is single-handedly educating the youth of France about the realities of sex and female anatomy with her new creation: the world’s first 3D-printed, anatomically correct clitoris.

The friend who sent me this article by Matt Nedostup at SomeCards found it on Facebook, and thought it might be a joke, but it is apparently a real thing in the world–and from my perspective a good one.

Laurie and I wrote about “clitoral studies” about a year and a half ago.  Although women’s sexuality has been getting some detailed attention for decades, and perhaps more in the past few years, real information is still quite obscure. Stephanie Theobald, writing about Fillod’s clitoral model in The Guardian (as linked from Nedostup’s article), says:

Clitoris activism is hot in France right now. The feminist group Osez Le Féminisme has been vocal in combatting the silence around it since 2011. While in Nice, a group of sex-positive feminists, Les Infemmes, has created a “sensual counter culture” fanzine called L’Antisèche du Clito or The Idiot’s Guide to the Clit. There are funny drawings of “Punk Clit,” “Dracula Clit” and “Freud Clit”, as well as facts about the organ.

When it comes to getting real information to children, especially pre-adolescent children, most people in the United States find the idea almost impossible to wrap our brains around — and even many sex-positive U.S. residents find the idea disturbing as well. My own position is that correct, detailed knowledge is always better than myths and old men’s tales, and I’m excited by what’s happening in France:

A recent report from Haut Conseil à l’Egalité, a government body responsible for gender equality, found that sex ed in public schools still teaches that boys are “focused on genital sexuality”, but girls “attach more importance to love.” Of course, scientists have known for years that boys and girls are both super into genital sexuality.

Fillod feels that her creation will help French girls understand their own bodies and overcome the stigmas against female sexuality that they’re taught by society/school/advertising/men/women/everyone.

We can only hope. Obviously a woman of radical ideas, Fillod took this one one step further by making the files for her printed clitoris open-source, i.e., available to anyone for free.

 Because of that generous decision, French elementary and middle schools will start using the model as a teaching aid starting in September.

Neither article says whether this is in some French schools or all French schools, or how the French public is reacting. I know that in the U.S., we are so confused and retrograde about teaching sex and sexuality that it’s almost impossible to imagine elementary school kids of any gender playing with a lifelike clitoris (or penis or vulva) for any purpose, let alone to understand “the realities of sex.” I will be watching this story to see if there’s backlash in France, and how it plays out.

In all probability, it will not lead to The Onion‘s satirical fantasy:

The Robert Mapplethorpe Children’s Museum officially opened its doors to the public Tuesday, drawing over 1,000 visitors with its interactive exhibits and youth-oriented activities aimed at making the photographer’s signature nude, explicit art more fun and accessible for younger generations. …

“Robert always wanted his work to affect the broadest possible audience, and by introducing children to the wonders of the human form and hardcore homoeroticism at a young age, we hope to instill a lifelong appreciation for his art,” said head curator Eileen Greco, dressed in the standard leather bondage harness worn by all Mapplethorpe Children’s Museum guides. “This museum is a celebration of everything Robert loved—from muscular male thighs to nylon cords wrapped tightly around one’s own scrotum—and our interactive exhibits make it fun for even the youngest child to explore and enjoy these themes.”

But it is kind of fun to imagine …