I don’t think it’s necessarily annoyance, so much as it’s envy. As a rounder white girl (and self-proclaimed feminist), I see curvy black women in the media, and I think to myself, “Damn, those girls look sexy and confident. I wish I could be like that.” To me, they’re inspiring! They don’t seem hyper-concerned about dieting, getting to aerobics class, or anything like that (yet they simultaneously seem healthy and active). I think if that’s annoying, it’s because it’s harder (at least in my experience) to find white women who carry their bodies with the same love, appreciation, and grace.

I worked at a jewerly store in a mall where so many big black women would come in wearing these beautiful, bold colors and buy equally as colorful jewelry. They usually came with friends or family, and they were always laughing and having a good time. Less frequently did white women come in with the same power and presence…though I will give credit to the ones who did; they were super fab!

I also notice that black women don’t typically coo to one another, “Hey, did you lose weight? You look great!” They eat and laugh together without analyzing how much dressing one girl puts on her salad. They seem to lift one another up in positive ways (though I’m sure there are exceptions).

I guess what I’m trying to say is, us insecure white girls could probably use some body-loving tips from our black sisters. :)

PS I LOVE the way you describe your hips! XD

I, for one, never tire of seeing people truly enjoying their bodies and being proud of them! There are few things more beautiful than someone who is confident and who loves herself, especially in this society that is white/educated/straight/wealthy/etc normative.